One of My friend told me today: “The Life is too Busy these days, its Office, Study, Home, Travel Only. I Don't get time to meet my friends", Another friend told me: "How good it would have been if we could rewind the time, I miss that time". Another told me "Buddy, Why not we have Our Re-Union Every month, when we like being together"
Many of my friends grew our careers together in same company and there was not so much of competetion as what we see today, Today each one of them is in a MNC but competing companies & these quotes came from a very polite, humble , respected and My dear friend & colleagues (Mohit Arora) , he said this to everybody in a reunion "Guys Just Think, today we all are working with Large Organizations & Competing Companies. Competing with each other every day in some way or other for helping our companies grow their businesses, Just think, if we start our own company, what strength that organization would bring on the table ? We all are best in what we do! and each one of us compliments the other, why cant we be together and build the Best Company in the world rather than competing ?"
It is definately a hard hitting fact that all of us face in life , since the feelings expressed by each of of my friends is not new. Each of these words that came straight from the heart, Each one of us were feeling the pinch of time we were dedicating to our friendship in the Rat race that we live today.....We want to be together but are were we doing our bit to be there is the question ?
Though I am not trying to justify the little time that we are spending for our friends but the the reality is that the "World of Friendship" too has changed its paradigm with changing time.
Many of my friends grew our careers together in same company and there was not so much of competetion as what we see today, Today each one of them is in a MNC but competing companies & these quotes came from a very polite, humble , respected and My dear friend & colleagues (Mohit Arora) , he said this to everybody in a reunion "Guys Just Think, today we all are working with Large Organizations & Competing Companies. Competing with each other every day in some way or other for helping our companies grow their businesses, Just think, if we start our own company, what strength that organization would bring on the table ? We all are best in what we do! and each one of us compliments the other, why cant we be together and build the Best Company in the world rather than competing ?"
It is definately a hard hitting fact that all of us face in life , since the feelings expressed by each of of my friends is not new. Each of these words that came straight from the heart, Each one of us were feeling the pinch of time we were dedicating to our friendship in the Rat race that we live today.....We want to be together but are were we doing our bit to be there is the question ?
Though I am not trying to justify the little time that we are spending for our friends but the the reality is that the "World of Friendship" too has changed its paradigm with changing time.
Ask this question to those who are above 50 plus years of age. They can easily explain to you the importance of friendship. For them, making friends is a simple, quick process. According to them, Friendship doesn’t come with a manual; they don’t need to be taught how to make friends. If you enjoy each other’s company, then it is done; they are friends for the rest of their lives. Theirs would be a fast, thick and long lasting relationship. They greet each other on seeing; enjoy their evening walks together; perhaps once in a while have a lunch or dinner together and ask each other’s family matters. They don’t see it a ‘taboo’ to poke their nose into each other’s personal matters, to discuss their family problems and share their joys too! For them, Friends are the ones to lift you up when you are down. They, thus value Friendship more than their families...
However the concept of friendship is changing fast with time. In this decade of millennium, that is passing by , when people hardly have time to breathe, have sparse time for themselves and their families, is the ‘ship’ called ‘Friendship’ sinking? Many would agree to the above question, yet some would say ‘NO’.
In these modern times of technology, we are still remaining in contact with our friends who are miles away in far off lands. With MSN, Yahoo, Google and their online chats and social networks like Facebook and Orkut etc, with the click of a button we can see and communicate with them, argues many. For the youths of today, laptops, desktops and internet connections are indispensable part of their lives to retain their friendship. Thus, for them, only the definition of friendship has changed.
Now ask them about the modern day’s Friendship; they would say that its meaning has changed now. Friendship has now become rather complicated and formal. It is difficult to make fast friends because one has to be careful in choosing one’s friends. Most of the kids now must be taught how to make good friends. (We are teaching our kids whom to make friends with & whom not to). See, we need a manual these days! Moreover, it does not last for a life time. Friendship just dissolves in the complexities of modern lives. All are busy; there is hardly any time or space for others but themselves alone. And it may also hurt some of us, if we see our friends don’t understand that that time or space is being shared by depriving someone else.
We might have plenty of colleagues in our office but not all are their friends. We cannot share our joys, personal problems and family matters with them. Their bonding is hardly Friendship but rather more ‘colleagueship’. You cannot lean on their shoulders at the time of hardships. Some of them cannot be even trusted; some might turn out to be your traitors at your work place, hindering your promotion. Thus most youngsters today would prefer their family first than friends.
You get a mixed opinion about Friendship if you ask today’s youngsters. For some, they are integral part of their lives, more important than their marriage; for some it is a necessity; for some it is an obligation; yet for others, the most exciting feature of friendship is that they can drop their old friends and easily find new ones, as they cannot choose their family. For a majority of them, friendship is the same as buying a house; you buy a house which you can only afford and the one which is for sale; and so is friendship – you can choose your friends only from the people you have met!
However the concept of friendship is changing fast with time. In this decade of millennium, that is passing by , when people hardly have time to breathe, have sparse time for themselves and their families, is the ‘ship’ called ‘Friendship’ sinking? Many would agree to the above question, yet some would say ‘NO’.
In these modern times of technology, we are still remaining in contact with our friends who are miles away in far off lands. With MSN, Yahoo, Google and their online chats and social networks like Facebook and Orkut etc, with the click of a button we can see and communicate with them, argues many. For the youths of today, laptops, desktops and internet connections are indispensable part of their lives to retain their friendship. Thus, for them, only the definition of friendship has changed.
Now ask them about the modern day’s Friendship; they would say that its meaning has changed now. Friendship has now become rather complicated and formal. It is difficult to make fast friends because one has to be careful in choosing one’s friends. Most of the kids now must be taught how to make good friends. (We are teaching our kids whom to make friends with & whom not to). See, we need a manual these days! Moreover, it does not last for a life time. Friendship just dissolves in the complexities of modern lives. All are busy; there is hardly any time or space for others but themselves alone. And it may also hurt some of us, if we see our friends don’t understand that that time or space is being shared by depriving someone else.
We might have plenty of colleagues in our office but not all are their friends. We cannot share our joys, personal problems and family matters with them. Their bonding is hardly Friendship but rather more ‘colleagueship’. You cannot lean on their shoulders at the time of hardships. Some of them cannot be even trusted; some might turn out to be your traitors at your work place, hindering your promotion. Thus most youngsters today would prefer their family first than friends.
You get a mixed opinion about Friendship if you ask today’s youngsters. For some, they are integral part of their lives, more important than their marriage; for some it is a necessity; for some it is an obligation; yet for others, the most exciting feature of friendship is that they can drop their old friends and easily find new ones, as they cannot choose their family. For a majority of them, friendship is the same as buying a house; you buy a house which you can only afford and the one which is for sale; and so is friendship – you can choose your friends only from the people you have met!
Ponder over it and help build the old days that we all miss , like the old songs quality of Music we miss...
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